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Subconscious space clearing in 4 simple steps

Your subconscious mind is your most powerful tool. By tapping into this unlimited source, the good things you can manifest into your life are truly endless.

It can be hard to imagine that the exact things you want are waiting for you to call them in. To make room for them. For real. When your head is full of dreams, your belly burning with desire and your energy being sent in a thousand directions, a clear subconscious slate seems totally out of your reach. Not to mention almost impossible.

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The thing is, we already intuitively know how to clean out our subconscious. And like all spirit-reviving techniques, it drags up resistance and a whole swag of screaming, conditioned thought systems.

There will always be thought and behavioural patterns embedded in our subconscious, keeping us from the good stuff. The trick is to keep shedding these layers.

I soaked up the lunar goodness of the most recent Scorpio full moon, sitting in it’s stillness I ran through all the subconscious thoughts and behaviours that I wanted to release.

Self doubt + judgement. Worn out excuses. Stifling my joy. Delaying greatness. Stale thought patterns.

Deep exhale.

I plugged in for a manifestation meditation before bed, because nothing kicks your subconscious mind into overdrive like falling asleep with your dreams front and centre. I felt every fibre soften. I leaned in to the juicy visions and summoned my subconscious to lock ’em in.

Stunning. Breathtaking. Aligned. Crystal Clear. Vividly colourful. Alive.

Unapologetically perfect.

That’s when I felt her creep in, my old friend self-doubt. Sniggering at me in my zone, raising an eyebrow at my intentions and hurling a tornado of second guesses at me while I squirmed to stay present.

Ironically, as the voice on my iPod cooed ”thoughts will come in, acknowledge and let them go” self doubt was shouting ”AS IF!”.

I ripped my earphones out and rolled over.

The next morning, my hunger for retaliation fresh, I flipped my morning routine on it’s head. I grabbed my trusty running buddy and hit the pavement. I headed for the beach, and as I neared the lookout the sun coming up over the water literally stopped me in my tracks.

Those luminescent rays lit up everything they touched, instantly making everything more beautiful.

Golden. Glittering. Quietly confident.

That’s how I want to feel.

On the stretch back home, I looked up to see the faint round outline of the full moon from the night before. I got in the door, whizzed up a smoothie and cracked open my brand new The Desire Map journal.

Still craving guidance and with my intentions screaming to be declared, I mouthed a silent ‘please guide me’ to the universe while running my finger along the pages of my journal. I stopped and flipped open the page to be met with this:


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What would you like to stop doing?

What would you like to stop doing?

Ok, I hear you. Loud and clear.

I plonked myself down and felt a familiar surge of resistance making it’s way up through my stomach into my chest where it sat like a baby elephant. Intuitively knowing there was a lesson in this and that it would continue to show up until I dealt with it, I picked up my pen and let it all spill out onto the blank pages.

2 full pages and 5 minutes later I felt held and enlivened.

I would like to stop killing my buzz. Yes, for real.

I would like to stop looking outside myself for approval.

I would like to stop worrying about things that are so far-fetched but still take up 80% of my imagination. True story.

I would like to stop thinking that what has happened to people in my family will happen to me because it’s ‘how we’re wired’.

I would like to stop thinking that my future is out of my control.

When it comes to calling yourself out on worn out ways of being, retraining your subconscious mind and doing the inner work, Robert Frost was on the ball when he said ”The best way out is always through”.

We get so caught up in the business of hitching our wagons to the things we want most.

We pile our already full plates high and wonder why on the way to fulfilment we feel uninspired.

Stopping is just as powerful as starting. It’s cleansing. It frees up your subconscious space to bring in more of what you covet.

The universe works in exchanges. Give. Receive. Inhale. Exhale. Stop. Start.

There is power to be found in stopping. Ditch the stuff that doesn’t work. Throw out what’s expired. Get rid of what doesn’t fit.

To stop a conditioned pattern of thought or behaviour is to call it out and clear your subconscious slate.

Create spaciousness. Expand. Air it out. Make room.

It’s elegant, terrifying and freeing all at once. It forces us to dance with the shadow parts of ourselves we’d rather keep tucked away.

Once I had my list in front of me I could see exactly what I needed to unload so I could travel lighter.

What do you need to stop in order to clear your subconscious space? Here’s how you know what needs to go:

1. It’s draining.

Physically and energetically. You’ll feel tired and pissed off for no good reason. You’re subconsciously burning energy doing stuff that you don’t want to do. It throws you out of alignment and kicks up self-doubt. Don’t do it.

2. You’re not doing it for you.

Selflessness and generosity can give you a surge of the warm fuzzies, but if you’re always playing the giver you’re going to stifle your ability to receive. It becomes a conditioned behaviour, something you do subconsciously, and you even justify the behaviour; ”it’s in my nature, I always put others before myself”. It’s unbalanced and it’s draining. See above.

3. You don’t know the ‘why’ of what you’re doing. 

You’re working your ass off to save money to buy a house to raise 2.5 kids and a golden retriever, except your heart really wants to quit your job, sell everything and jump on the next flight to NYC. If you don’t know why you’re pouring your heart into what you’re doing, you won’t get what you want because, well, your heart’s not in it. See above.

4. You’re hitting more roadblocks than green lights. 

This universe will always, always, always conspire to give you what you want. The only thing you have to do is be clear on what that is. If you’re busting your hump and getting thrown off course at every turn, get back to the why.

Is the fire in your belly still burning brightly? Yes? Then press on.

The flame of desire slowly dimming? Get back to the why. Are you bending to fulfil a subconsciously conditioned behaviour? Doing it for someone else’s approval? Is it sucking the joy out of you? Yes? Then write it down, release it and move right along sista. You’ve far bigger dreams to chase.

In the spirit of freeing up my subconscious space, here what I’m making room for:

More life-affirming, hell-yeah moments. The more you celebrate them, the more life brings them in.

Actively creating my own fulfilment. You’re constantly creating with every word, thought and action. Raise your awareness, lean in to what you are creating, fulfil your own dreams and you’ll never need to look outside yourself.

Sending out strong, clear, love soaked intentions. Good vibes. Always.

Rewiring my thoughts. You are not your genes or your hipbones, neither am I. We are the things we do, the words we say and the centre of our own universe.

So, let’s make subconscious space for the glittering, life-affirming, passion soaked things your heart beats for. They’re waiting in the wings for you to call them in.



Tell me in the comments lovely, what are you clearing subconscious space for and what goodness are you calling in?








  • Reply Jessie April 29, 2016 at 2:52 am

    What a beautiful post!I have to write my own “stop doing list” too. 🙂 Thanks for sharing!

    • Reply Cynthia April 29, 2016 at 7:56 am

      Thank you Jessie. It’s so liberating, enjoy writing.xx

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  • Reply Serena Star Leonard July 15, 2014 at 8:30 am

    I love your writing style Cynthia and your theme – it’s so easy to read 🙂 I am sooo going to write a stop doing list, just as soon as I stop procrastinating!

  • Reply Aaron Bourke July 9, 2014 at 9:09 pm

    You write so beautifully you can help but feel your experiences and you passion for life. You have captured the essence of the subconscious as well as life. I could not agree with you more with the statement of celebrating the Hell Yeah moments the more life brings them in! Love it!

    • Reply July 10, 2014 at 11:00 am

      Thank you Aaron! So grateful for your kind words – here’s to lots of HELL YEAH moments!x

  • Reply newyearsrevolution2013 July 9, 2014 at 5:20 pm

    Writing my stop doing list as we speak/type… you get the point 😛

  • Reply jpsgreenroom July 8, 2014 at 7:22 pm

    I can really feel your passion in this post, it read like a nice drop of red wine feels like at the end of a hard week! A friend of mine loves Danielle, she’s based in Melbourne & has a blog by the name of “Cider in the Sun” – I think you gal’s would hit it off!

    • Reply July 8, 2014 at 8:38 pm

      Aw, thank you so much. Really appreciate your kind words. I’ll be sure to pop over and check out Cider in the sun, I’m a former Melbourne girl and always looking for new blogs to soak up.x

  • Reply John Dwyer July 7, 2014 at 11:00 pm

    Thank you Cynthia!. My stop doing is LONG well entrenched I’m afraid. But I’m learning more about how to manage the beast every day, and posts like this one are like precious gems. Keep the great stuff coming!!

    • Reply July 8, 2014 at 8:41 pm

      I add to my list often, the great thing is we’re making space to call in more of the good stuff. Thank you for your kind words John.x

  • Reply Mike Gardner is The Time Doctor July 7, 2014 at 10:30 pm

    Hi Cynthia, I push my clients all the time to come up with a stop doing list and invariably when they are ready they complete one and wish they had done it earlier, graet blog

  • Reply Paula July 7, 2014 at 9:42 pm

    Yes I totally get this. Its when we stop and get back to the natural order of things that we find out what we are meant to be doing. Too often we try and try and try and wonder why nothing is happening. I find I get like this sometimes, but I know I am doing it so I tend to take the dog our and leave my work behind. We don’t need to struggle, it should come easy so letting it go is what has to happen. Beautifully put thank you 🙂

  • Reply Jasmin Newman July 7, 2014 at 9:29 pm

    Really enjoying giving myself permission for doing nothing at the moment. The creativity that flows after is a gift.

  • Reply Tonia, - Property & Lifestyle Coach July 7, 2014 at 9:09 pm

    Wow, I LOVE this post. My flame is glowing brightly at the moment and I am determined to keep it that way. Thanks for sharing your wisdom in such an entertaining, thought provoking way. xx

  • Reply thebookwright July 7, 2014 at 8:56 pm

    Lovely article – if we imagine we live our lives backwards and experience them forwards, all we have to do is imagine the perfect future and allow it to turn up (and remember to say “thank you” when it does)

    • Reply July 8, 2014 at 8:36 pm

      Totally agree. Act as if what you want is already yours, raise those vibrations!x

  • Reply Mamalulu Lyn.. Marketing Coach July 7, 2014 at 8:56 pm

    A thoroughly enjoyable read and some great ideas and pointers…. gonna give that “stop doing” list a go!

  • Reply Jenny June 7, 2014 at 12:24 pm

    Thank you so much for this timely post Cynthia. When I saw Danielle in Sydney a few weeks ago I really liked her idea of a “stop doing” list but haven’t gotten around to putting this into action. I’m going to carve out some time this weekend to do just that. Thank you!! xx

    • Reply June 8, 2014 at 7:58 am

      Welcome! Have fun with it. Thank you for reading lovely Jenny.x

  • Reply Kibby@Kibby's Blended Life June 6, 2014 at 4:29 am

    Powerful and inspiring stuff Cynthia! I can totally relate! I didn’t know you had your website up and ready. I will share it and YOU out. Keep up the great writing and being YOU. YOU are amazing. xoxo

    • Reply June 6, 2014 at 8:16 am

      Thank you lovely lady. Your encouragement means the world.x

  • Reply Katherine - The Beauty Of Life June 1, 2014 at 1:49 pm

    I saw Danielle in Sydney a few weeks ago and she said about the ‘stop doing list’, thanks for reminding me about it and sharing your experience and the outcomes of giving it a go. You’ve completely inspired me to try it out too x

    • Reply June 1, 2014 at 2:18 pm

      Hi Katherine! I bet Danielle was glorious to hear in person 🙂 Glad to inspire you lovely, would love to hear how you go. C.x

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